Are you treating a partner, ex partner or family member in a way that's hurting them?
Have you ever felt or said:
- "When I get angry I just can't control myself."
- "I don't know, a few drinks and things just get a bit out of hand."
- "I don't know what she means. I've never hit her. I just pushed her and she fell over."
- "It's all very well for you to talk about being me being abusive – you don't know what I have to put up with."
What domestic abuse is
Any threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults over the age of 16.
Are you being abusive?
You're being abusive if you:
- Check up on your partner or ex-partner frequently (listening to their phone conversations, checking their car mileage, emails, texts)
- frequently put your partner or ex-partner down (calling them names, criticising them, humiliating them)
- try to control your partner or ex-partner (telling them whom they can or can't see, where they can and can't go, what they can or can't wear)
- are frightening your partner or ex-partner
- are being physically violent, emotionally abusive, intimidating or sexually abusive.